But damn, if I won't read all the
books that tell me it will.
I spent the better part of my day yesterday working on that post. And it left me feeling pretty melancholy. Because I know, in my heart of hearts, that although we see people starting companies, working their way up corporate ladders and "keeping it all together" as models for society, I just don't buy into it anymore.
I like
GTD (Getting Things Done, by David Allen) and think that there are some things that I can take out his system. But seriously, and this is what I argued when I was going to weekly meetings about GTD, you can get so wrapped up in the system, the HOW of it, that you lose sight of the WHY.
And the why, for me, gets harder all the time. I never used to be this way. I wanted the best, to be the best, to excel at everything I did. I made the best grades, I read only the finest literature (as a lit major I sniffed at anything I considered less than excellent prose or poetry), and in my early days here at Zaadz I really did want to "change the world."
The more I reflect on it, the more I wonder what running around and being productive, getting things done, is all about. Actually, one lesson that I've learned is running around is the antithesis of getting things done, and it's really about doing the things you have to do in an orderly, streamlined way. So, that's something positive I've gotten out of all this reading and implementation of "systems."
But I can't fight back that nagging feeling that being productive is pointless.
Just like I can't fight back the feeling that "changing the world" is not what I'm here for.
What I'm really here to do is
accept the world, see it for what it is, see through it and see the connections between things (while knowing that it will indeed change). I want to change X implies that there's something you'd like to see better. Which means you're resisting what "is."
Now, that last part I'm still working on when it comes to myself. I don't read the self-improvement books as much as I used to. But I'm coming to an understanding about myself. Me and myself are having conversations that go something like this:
Gwen, Part A: I want to chill out, to let go of control, to let Control go on vacation.
Gwen, Part B: Control is an illusion. You're fine the way you are.
Gwen, Part A: Yes, but if I am fine, why do I feel so bad? I always make people mad! I think being in control is going to make me feel better. It never works!
Gwen, Part B: Love What Is. You're doing great. You rock. Just observe whatever comes up.
Gwen, Part A: Okay, I'll give it a try....But only because I like you.
Going to my first Toastmaster meeting today. I'll get to practice having conversations with real people! Won't that be nice.
I think I'll probably still favor having conversations with myself.